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[03 Dec 2009|10:36pm] |
I don't want to be a mother figure, an analyst, a booty call, and I don't want to be an aimless moment until something better fitting/looking comes along.
Nothing is special anymore.. people have grown desensitized by entitlement. Everyone thinks they deserve better so in the end.. humans are treated as disposable.
I really want to see the good in people; I want it to be there so badly.
I'm struggling with this.
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(oih)
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[30 Nov 2009|08:13pm] |
"Human Universals" is a term used in anthropology and evolutionary psychology to refer to behavioural or cognitive traits common to all neurologically normal humans. The notion of human universals was partially formulated as a challenge to cultural relativism, a predominant view of human nature in the late 20th century which some psychologists and anthropologists see as greatly exaggerating the variance among members of the human species.
In a book of the same name published in 1991, professor of anthropology Donald Brown listed hundreds of human universals in an effort to emphasize the fundamental cognitive commonality between members of the human species. Some of these human universals include incest avoidance, territoriality, fear of death, rituals, childcare, pretend play, mourning, food sharing, kin groups, social structure, collective decision making, etiquette, envy, weapons, aesthetics, and many more. Wider recognition of human universals has led to a sort of mini-revolution in psychology, which has begun to take more input from the harder sciences of anthropology and biology, and less from the ubiquitous pop-psychology of the 20th century.
One of the greatest popularizers of the notion of human universals in recent years has been from Steven Pinker, a cognitive scientist at Harvard and author of four widely read books on the human mind. As a champion of the rising science of evolutionary psychology, Pinker argues that, in the same way we all have ten fingers, ten toes, two eyes, two ears, and a mouth, all with the same basic biological features from person to person, we should expect our cognitive features to have similar commonality. The psychological differences between human beings are then differences of degree, not in kind.
The existence of an experimentally verifiable set of human universals has two key consequences.. The first is that it makes further psychological experimentation and research more valuable than some may have thought. If we can identify the common cognitive features between us and their characteristics, we learn not only about every human culture and individual on earth today, but of those into the indefinite future, as long as their genomes stay essentially human. The second is that the human species has more in common than conventional psychology would have us think - that conflicts arise in spite of our fundamental cognitive similarities, rather than from them.
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(2 hois | oih)
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[29 Nov 2009|09:42am] |
Poll #1491921 Cheating
Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 5Which is worse in a relationship? Why?
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[24 Nov 2009|09:12pm] |
The world is so sad sometimes.
I look at people making connections, how they choose to disconnect, and the eventual discovery of change.
It's so sad because it's hardly ever progressive. It's more like a jagged lunge into a sort of coldness. Lets break the cycle people, lets try to evolve our sensibilities. In the end, there are a million good things fighting to outlast the bad.
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(oih)
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[18 Nov 2009|09:59am] |
Underneath the pain, the sorrow, the shame,
love is stronger than hate.
Right before Halloween to after New years = my favourite time of year.
I really love seeing people come together for altruistic holidays.
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(oih)
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[14 Nov 2009|03:50pm] |
This is turning out to be a birthday crazy time of year. I have another birthday party to go to tomorrow. Blah blah.. I am much more interested in personal development. I was talking to L. about her ex. She took him back. I think she is looking for a world of hurt in the end but there is nothing I can do but support her in her decisions.
Admittedly, I am so jaded about relationships these days. Whenever I hear about them I link it instantly to misattributed arousal or some other relevant theory and I wonder can they work? Can they really work that hard on something and still be individuals?
I’m beginning to think I’m going to be alone. I’m not worried at all about it. Sometimes I think I am on some outré level of anxiety no one else can match. Everyone side-steps and tries to manipulate everything while I do something.. else. I read way too much, maybe I know too much. A part of this wisdom builds barriers until I feel untouchable and I’m able to ignore anything and everything until I get a direct answer.
Everyone speaks in riddles when really I just want to meet one person who is real and passionate and compassionate. I wouldn’t even mind being just friends! But not a mother. It’s all really very silly anyway.. my ideals are so high while everyone around me just wants me to settle on something that diminishes my sense of self.. when really in the end it’s much more satisfying to run for ten minutes.
This helps:
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(oih)
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[09 Nov 2009|12:24pm] |
He said, "I love Madam Butterfly! I'll bet you didn't think I would know that, did you. Ha!"
I looked up the stairs "Who doesn't know Puccini?"
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